As I sit here and reflect… I can honestly say that when God has a plan for your life, he will remove everyone and everything that is not relevant to where he needs you to be.
When I was in medical school, I had very few friends. I had some acquaintances who I met along the way and spoke to from time to time, but the title ‘friend’ is not one I use very lightly. By the time I got to final year, the only close friendship I had left at the time ended. The communication just stopped. The thing that was both strange and comforting was that I had peace about it. In hind sight, there were ‘red flags’ that clearly indicated that the friendship may not have been what I thought, and though it ended quite abruptly, I had no desire to try to hold on to or restore the relationship. After everything that happened since then, I have received confirmation after confirmation that it was supposed to end. Thankfully, I still had my core friends outside of medical school.
What really inspired this post, however, was a young lady from medical school who loved God. She was clearly set apart. When she started to boldly live out her calling, I felt so proud of her. One thing I did notice, however, was that the friend I had then, who was also a friend of this young lady, all of a sudden had nothing good to say about her. As the young lady moved more into her calling, her circle of friends shifted and those who were excluded were filled with offense and started to speak terribly about her. They accused her of behaving as if she was too good for them, unfollowing people on social media and pretty much distancing herself. All these things were being said in my presence.
So, when the friendship ended with my friend at the time, it really was not a surprise… Or at least it shouldn’t have been. It was in my final year that things started to really shift for me spiritually. I started to grow more in my faith and take steps to walk in my calling. God had always set me apart. The more steps I took, the more the ‘old’ people started to fall away and ‘new’ ones, aligned to my destiny, came.
So, what’s the moral of this story? When God sets you apart, don’t be surprised by the reactions of those around you when He starts to elevate you. Sometimes people are jealous of things inside of you that you cannot even see for yourself. God and those He has assigned to your life can see the greatness inside of you and they will always celebrate you. Everyone will not make it to the place He has reserved for you. Learn to celebrate both the losses and the gains.
Love & Blessings,