I remember speaking to my therapist about creating boundaries and her advice, in essence, was that sometimes we become the piece that holds things together and keeps things in momentum. It’s not until we stop doing something that others, and even ourselves, can really see how much of a crutch we were.
A very important lesson I have learnt is that if we don’t do something different, things will never change. We teach people how to treat us. For example, if I keep doing your laundry consistently, over time you may expect me to continue doing it indefinitely. If I stop, you will start to notice and think “hey, I’m running out of clothes and things are piling up around here” and now you have no choice but to do your own laundry. This might sound ridiculous to some but this may be the reality for others.
Here’s the lesson: Some of us are in so much bondage and the crazy thing is that we put ourselves there. No one forced us into bondage. But because we fear man so much, what people will say, think or how they will respond. We willfully become slaves and then complain about it, when we put ourselves in slavery. And since we put ourselves there, it’s our responsibility to get ourselves out.
We need to set aside some time at intervals to really sit down and analyze why we do what we do, what motivates us? Am I doing this because I need to? Or am I making myself a slave to the expectations, unspoken or otherwise, of others?
Love & Blessings,
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